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Fat Rabbit Iron's avatar

And this is why the concept of "mindfulness" is so toxic. We need some way to get out of our heads. In my opinion, hard physical training is the best way to do that.

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Veronica Baker's avatar

Yes I do agree with your antidote to depression and it works well for most people once they've taken that first step, which like most things in life can be the hardest step to take.

The problem arises when you hit the people who won't take that initial step. A few years ago I was a friend with the members of all the family including a grown up son who had hit the worst points you described, his days were spent in retreat in his bedroom with the curtains drawn against the world. Several people did their best to encourage him pretty well in your various ways to shake the depression but nothing was working and unfortunately the doctors answer was to increase the medication.

So his days were spent with the television on. The problem was for me the rest of his family were also starting to go downhill alongside of him. So I decided to go for a more brutal approach, keeping the soft side of me well hidden and I bought him a copy of "Fifty Things To Do When You're Dead" and said you might as well read it as you're fast heading there. He asked if I'd read it and obviously I'd got a copy on my bookshelf. So I told him yep and my choice was to be a test dummy to be thrown out a plane to measure effects on the body except I'd have to move to the USA as they don't do exciting things like that here.

And yes miraculously it worked, he started reading and his mum said even the television was off. He chose to be a car crash dummy if you're interested. The main thing is because it was a relatively easy read he wanted more reading and he had to leave the house to browse my bookcases with his money being tight.

Took about a year but he very slowly got off his meds, eventually found a job and started living life.

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